I am still alcohol free! Last night we went out to dinner again. The whole drive there I was debating about trying moderation yet again. My cravings were real and strong. By the time we got to the restaurant I decided that just for tonight I would stay sober. I ordered a soda water w lime. My husband suggested I drink only Thursday-Saturday, no more than 2 drinks. I played that out. I know that by Saturday, two glasses of wine would not be enough. Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday would be very difficult if not impossible to stay alcohol free. I would be back in that trap, obsessing about my next drink. More importantly I would be angry with myself and full of guilt. I hate that feeling. By the time we got our food a felt fine. The craving really does go away. I just have to ride it out.
This blog really helps. Comments will help too! Gives me some accountability. Tomorrow I will list my favorite books, fiction and non fiction about alcohol dependency.
Soberly yours,
Neinwine
Huge congrats neinwine! Well done not being tempted by the Thurs-Sunday suggestion - that way constant hell and deprivation lies.... I've just posted your web address on my blog. Hope it'll send some readers your way. Hugs xxx
ReplyDeleteYes, I know I do not want to get back on that slippery slope! The only direction is down. Funny how I keep trying to convince myself that this time it could be different.
DeleteHello! I've just come to your blog from SoberMummy's, where I've been occasionally lurking. I did Dry January this year but then it all went to pot...today is my 10th alcohol-free day so I'm not far behind you! It's so difficult, but I've been making a list of reasons not to drink to keep me going, and I've just added 'the craving really does pass, you just need to ride it out'. Thank you for that and I hope to read much more of your blog, good luck :)
ReplyDeleteVery Well Done!! Keep adding ice to the lime and soda and enjoying the hangover free mornings .... Reading your journey helps others stay with you so much, thank you.
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Thanks Jacs60. These comments are really helping me.
DeleteHi neinwine. I have followed SM and have been sober for 10 or so months now. I tried many ties before but the drinking spiralled out of control to the point where alcohol defined me. I can't/won't do AA so had to find another way and here I am, haunting the blogs. Once you get over the hump it starts to get easier although its a war not a battle so you have to keep your eyes open. I've lost some friends, my habits have changed, Im 16Kg lighter and a whole lot fitter. Do I still want a glass (lake) of wine - absolutely. But I can rationalise my craving. My life hasn't stopped and I love Pellegrino and I can drive anytime night, day and morning. Its been a journey, hard, frustrating but exciting and stimulating. Keep going, don't drink, eat anything you like for now. Good luck.
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Great job! So glad SM posted your blog address. xx
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ReplyDeleteI hear ya, sister. Those two glasses of wine crap is the pits, never works! Once you drink them, it's like opening the door to the chatter, "I've started now , so I'll continue...." to steal a quote from Mastermind.
I too, had no off switch and drank heavily from my teens to 512 days ago, 41years to be exact.
I struggled but I just didn't drink. I hoped if I could get through the evening, I would be one more day on my not drinking life. I did just that, and the days started to add up.
No, it most certainly is not easy but it is so worth it.
Best of luck.
I'm here via SM too... I stopped drinking (1.5 to 2 bottles of wine per night) again in January this year. And it's reading blogs like yours, and SM's, that really help me - specially when things get difficult. So all the best, I'll be with you!
ReplyDeleteHi lovely! You are doing brilliantly. I'm on day 35 today and it does get easier, I promise. I know I still have a long way to go but I'm already noticing that I'm thinking about it a LOT less than I was so I just wanted to cheer you on. Keep blogging, and get some support if you can. Sober Mummy's blog was my catalyst, too, for getting back on the sober wagon (so huge thanks to her for that) and I also love Belle's Tired of Thinking About Drinking.
ReplyDeleteToday I am loving the peace of mind and the fact that I don't hate myself like I used to when I was drinking :)
Looking forward to following you :)
Freedom xx
Thanks for your input and your support. Congratulations on 35 days sober! I will check out Belle's post. It is starting to get easier but I know I have a long way to go.
DeleteCongrats. Im in the way early days too. Congrats on what you have accomplished so far. Its hugely difficult. 2 glasses is absolutely never enough. I used to lie to myself and say I could dump the rest down the drain. I even tried to measure it out and dump the rest--- I ended up walking to the store for more. Looking forward to more updates.
ReplyDeleteThat sounds very familiar, I would plan to make a bottle last for two nights, and I could never succeed!
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